Connecting with Someone Who’s Passed

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The veils are thin this time of year.  

Listen for your loved ones who have passed over.  They’re not that far away.


My Dad, who died in 2001, came in unexpectedly yesterday morning.  This is not something he usually does, nor was I trying to connect with him. In fact, I was walking from the kitchen back to my office, having just reheated a cup of coffee.  

Dad’s long time best friend and our close family friend was in his mid 90’s, and dying.  I’d known the man was fading, but did not know his current state or have any sense of timing.

Dad was here to tell me that he and Mom (who died in 1983) were with the friend now, and would be with him when he passed.  He also used a term of affection for this friend I had not heard in years.

Later, I learned the friend passed about 1/2 hour after Dad got in touch with me.

This man was the last peer connection to Mom and Dad. Dad getting in touch was his way of saying that he and Mom were here, that they’ve always been here.  



If you are missing someone who has died, know they are not gone.  It’s just that we can’t see them.  But we can feel them. Love is the connector between sentient and spirit; it is your connection with your “loved” ones who’ve passed over.  

Find a space and time where you can sit quietly for a bit.  Bring this person up in your mind, and then move them into your heart.  Let your heart swell with your memories of them. If you feel they are close, they are—trust that. Talk with them if you’d like, they will hear you. They may or may not answer.  You may hear their voice come to mind. Your eyes may land on something important to them. Later in the day you may hear a song that was a favorite of theirs.  Whether they answer or not, know that the love between you remains; in fact it is the cord that connects you.